许多列表！-- Lots of Lists!

这个帖子是所有的列表。我想更深入地了解一些或所有这些话题，但是我认为现在可能会提供一些简单的要点来引导父母在这些重要话题上走向正确的方向。

那么，比起给出我们的列表一个更好的开始：

家庭压力的七个迹象

2.多动症的八大症状

五个健康问题经常被误认为是抑郁症

你蹒跚学步的五种方式

九种语言发展技巧

帮助儿童应对的二十本重要书籍

7.快乐的孩子的五个关键

这里是列表！

家庭压力的七个迹象

没有人在睡觉

你经常大吼大叫

没有家庭晚餐

你是小孩正在退出

你正在努力工作

每个人都在天气下

你一直在跑

2.）ADHD的八种症状

不仔细听

犯粗心错误

混乱

坐立不安

鲁莽的驾驶

经常失物

有生气的爆发

短期记忆问题

3.）五大健康问题常常被误入为抑郁症

多动症

甲状腺功能减退症

纤维肌痛

慢性疲劳综合征

莱姆病

）你的蹒跚学步的五种方式

我想要的东西，所以我需要它

我需要看到并听到一切

我只看到一种方式和一种方式

我需要你的注意，不惜一切代价

你应该能够看清我的想法

5.）九种语言发展技术

谈话，谈话，谈话。

读，读，读。

一起享受音乐

讲故事。

跟随你孩子的领导。

不要批评你孩子的表达或言语模式。

谨慎使用电视和电脑。

彻底治疗耳部感染。

去实地考察

6.）帮助儿童应对的二十本重要书籍

介绍一个新的兄弟姐妹：

我们有一个由Cathryn Falwell的宝贝

达西和格兰不喜欢婴儿简·卡特勒

失去爱人

Knuffle Bunny：Mo Willems的警示故事

克里斯Raschka的黛西球

去医院：

富兰克林由Paulette Bourgeois去医院

为什么，查理·布朗，为什么？作者：Charles M. Schulz

在一个亲人的死亡：

Patrice Karst的隐形字符串

Pat Schweibert和Chuck DeKlyen的泪水汤

在宠物的死亡：

狗天堂由辛西娅Rylant

关于Barney的第十个好事Judith Viorst

离婚：

是巧克力布丁吗？由Sandra Levins

两个家由克莱尔Masurel

在会见新的继父母时：

切尔西的树由玛西麦肯

你唱新歌吗由Sandra Levins

有恶梦：

我害怕的是什么？苏斯博士

走开，大绿色怪物！作者：Ed Amberley

搬到新房子

我们正在移动Heather Maisner

亚历山大，谁不是（你听到我吗？我的意思是！）由Judith Viorst去

开始学龄前：

温文恩担心凯文·亨克斯

Audrey Penn的亲吻之手

7.快乐孩子的五个关键

成为一个很好的家长

你的孩子不一定是最好的

保持生日聚会低调

快乐的父母有快乐的孩子

教孩子独立和有帮助

This post is all lists. I want to eventual touch on some or all of these topics in greater depth, but I thought it might be useful, for now, to give some simple bullet points to steer parents in the right direction on these important topics.

So, how better to begin than give a list of our lists:

1. Seven Signs of Family Stress

2. Eight Symptoms of ADHD

3. Five Health Problems often Mistaken for Depression

4. Five Ways Your Toddler Thinks

5. Nine Language Development Techniques

6. Twenty Important Books for Helping Children Cope

7. Five Keys to Having Happy Children 

And here are the lists!

1.) Seven Signs of Family Stress

• no one is sleeping
• you're yelling at each other often
• no family dinners
• you're child is withdrawing
• you're struggling at work
• everyone is under the weather
• you are running around all the time

2.) Eight Symptoms of ADHD

• Not listening carefully
• Making careless mistakes
• Being disorganized
• Fidgeting
• Reckless driving
• Losing things frequently
• Having angry outbursts
• Problems with short-term memory

3.) Five Health Problems Often Mistaken for Depression

• ADHD
• Hypothyroidism
• Fibromyalgia 
• Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
• Lyme Disease

4.) Five Ways Your Toddler Thinks

• I want something so I need it
• I need to see and hear everything
• I see things one way and one way only
• I need your attention at any cost
• You should be able to read my mind

5.) Nine Language Development Techniques

• Talk, talk, talk.
• Read, read, read.
• Enjoy music together.
• Tell stories.
• Follow your child's lead. 
• Never criticize your child's articulation or speech patterns. 
• Use television and computers sparingly. 
• Treat ear infections thoroughly.
• Go on field trips.

6.) Twenty Important Books for Helping Children Cope

On introducing a new sibling:

• We Have A Baby by Cathryn Falwell
• Darcy and Gran Don't Like Babies by Jane Cutler

On losing a lovey:

• Knuffle Bunny: A Cautionary Tale by Mo Willems
• A Ball for Daisy by Chris Raschka

On going to the hospital:

• Franklin Goes To The Hospital by Paulette Bourgeois
• Why, Charlie Brown, Why? by Charles M. Schulz

On the death of a loved one:

• The Invisible String by Patrice Karst
• Tear Soup by Pat Schweibert and Chuck DeKlyen

On the death of a pet:

• Dog Heaven by Cynthia Rylant
• The Tenth Good Thing About Barney by Judith Viorst

On divorce: 

• Was It The Chocolate Pudding? by Sandra Levins
• Two Homes by Claire Masurel

On meeting a new stepparent: 

• Chelsea's Tree by Marcy McCann
• Do You Sing Twinkle? by Sandra Levins

On having nightmares:

• What Was I Scared Of? by Dr. Seuss
• Go Away, Big Green Monster! By Ed Amberley

On moving to a new house:

• We're Moving by Heather Maisner
• Alexander, Who's Not (Do You Hear Me? I Mean It!) Going to Move by Judith Viorst

On starting preschool:

• Wemberly Worried by Kevin Henkes
• The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn

7.) Five Keys to Having Happy Children 

• Be a Good Enough Parent
• Your Child Doesn't Have to Be the Best
• Keep Birthday Parties Low-Key
• Happy Parents Have Happy Kids
• Teach Children to Be Independent and Helpful

厕所训练你的孩子--Toilet Training Your Child

关于什么时候最好开始厕所训练的问题，没有一个正确的答案。部分是因为每一种文化都会以不同的方式接近厕所训练，也是因为每个孩子都不同很明显的是，为了对厕所进行培训，对儿童产生过度压力至少可以反对生产，如果不是有害的。厕所列车的最佳方法是使其成为一个有趣和轻松的活动。因此，当您的小孩开始对自己的排便和便盆感兴趣时，您应该开始。一个早期的迹象是，他们已经开始沟通，并可以告诉你，当他们有一个湿的尿布。下一步是让他们自己弄湿之后立即告诉他们。显示他们准备好的最后一个标志是当他们开始预期润湿他们的尿布时。

通常的孩子会发现这种自我意识的感觉，以及自己在二点半左右做事情的愿望。在玩游戏的时候，可以让他们坐在便盆上，鼓励他们去玩便盆。你应该让他们看你去便盆。尝试安排白天（约每小时）的便盆时间。也使活​​动乐趣无压力。如果他们拿起他们的船尾来告诉你，可以自由地笑起来，祝贺他们，同时也警告他们这条船很脏。

早期的厕所训练的潮流开始于第一次世界大战后美国，当时母亲经常被孤独照顾大家庭。由于这是尿布前的时候，妇女每天都要洗几十块布尿布。必要的是，他们需要试图限制使用的尿布数量，只需要有时间来做余下的工作。这导致早期便盆训练的推动。还有一个信念，来自于弗洛伊德和其他人的误读，早期的便盆训练对于孩子来说是健康的。早期便盆训练的儿童最终将成为更清洁的成年人，并拥有更多的自我控制能力。推动早期厕所训练是如此之大，以致许多家长觉得如果拒绝厕所训练，就被迫严惩他们的孩子。

我们从这个经验中学到的是，即使在这样的压力下，孩子们仍然没有得到早期的训练，其实很多这些孩子在3岁以下的床上湿润，或者面临其他的心理伤害，如抑郁症或侵略行为。

提高孩子信心，让他们接受培训的最好办法是做好准备，而不是以前做的事情。



There is no single correct answer to the question about what time is best to begin toilet training. In part because every culture approaches toilet training differently, but also because every child is different. What is clear is that producing excess stress on the child in order to toilet train them can be at least counter productive if not harmful. The optimal way to toilet train is by making it a fun and light hearted activity. Therefore, you should begin when your child starts showing an interest in their own bowel movements and the potty. One early sign is that they have begun to communicate and can tell you when they have a wet diaper. The next step is for them to be able to tell immediately after they have wet themselves. The last sign showing they are ready is when they have begun to anticipate wetting their diaper.

Children usual develop this sense of self-awareness as well as the desire to do things themselves around 2 1/2. You can encourage them to go potty by having them sit on the potty while they play a game. You should have them watch you go to the potty. Try to schedule potty times during the day (about every hour). Also make the activity fun and stress free. If they pick up their poop to show you, feel free to laugh and congratulate them while also warning them that poop is dirty.

The fad for early toilet training began in post WWI America when mothers were often left alone to care for large families. Since this was the time before diapers the women had to wash dozens of cloth diapers a day. Necessarily, they needed to try to limit the number of diapers used, simply have time to do the rest of the day's work. This resulted in a push for early potty training. There was also the belief, taken from misreadings of Freud and others, that early potty training was healthy for the child. Children that were potty trained early would end up being cleaner adults and having more self control. The push for early toilet training was so great that many parents felt compelled to severely punish their children if they resisted toilet training.

What we have learned from this experience is that even under such pressure the children still were not trained early, in fact, many of these children either relapsed by wetting their beds in their 3s or faced other psychological damage such as depression or fits of aggression.

The best way to boost your child's confidence and have them trained is to do it when they are ready and not before.